So you are probably thinking what is the secret? There are quite a few of them! And they are not at all secrets. A very popular belief that if you treat a girl right and do everything she desires will earn you her love is a myth! The nicer you treat them the faster they get tired of you. It is not possible for human beings to settle down on something that they already own, that is why we have wars, we open businesses instead of working 9-5 and want a BMW instead of a Kia. Girls (majority) are much weaker then guys, physically and emotionally, they cannot fight wars and face the world the way a man does, but they can very easily get their hands on what the man has earned without an extra effort. The female kind is born with a few assets that the man cannot live without, giving them an advantage. Think about it, if you go to a job interview, your knowledge of the job is superb but your opponent is a blond with a nice sack with almost the same knowledge as you. Do you stand a chance? Sorry to tell you but that is a Negative. Well, life works the same way. You got a girlfriend…. She is hot! You are an average Joe. She loves you and you love her. You drive a new Altima and she seems happy with the fact that you have a ride. Well one day she is coming home from work and someone on a BMW pulls over and tells her she looks beautiful. She brushes him off and keeps walking. Next day someone else in a Benz and nice rims tells her the same, she brushes him off and keeps walking. But! All of a sudden, you start hearing that you are not being romantic anymore! You don’t understand her anymore! You are this and you are that. Why does that happen? She still loves you and she is still with you but she is starting to understand that there is a world full of possibilities. She can no longer see what you give her but subconsciously she knows that she can get more. That is the beginning of the end.

So you probably thinking, holly crap! I have 20 bucks 3 unpaid bills and my bicycle has a flat tire how do I get laid? Well… here is a secret, there are few stages that go from “Hi my name is Joe” to “wow that was great let’s do it again”.

Stage 1. – Hi my name Joe
Be interesting, put something on the table that might catch her eye and disappear the longer you interact the faster she will catch on that you have a flat tire, Don’t call her the same day give it some time .

Stage 2. – First date
Do not completely dedicate the time to her. See her for only a few minutes grab something to eat and drop her off home because you have somewhere else more important to be(bring work as an excuse). This is the most important part of the whole process; if you show her that you are going an extra mile to be with her she will have the upper hand. You must keep her guessing, as long as you show her that she is not the priority in your life it will confuse her and make her take the extra step. Girls cannot let someone else be more important than they are and they must have the last word. After the date send her a simple text message acknowledging her, such as “It was really nice seeing you, sorry I had to end it early” and please do not respond to her text messages 15 seconds later. Take your time.

Stage 3. –  Second date

Hopefully you still have the $20 left. Take her out to sushi or something of that sort, a place where you do not have to sell your lungs to afford the dinner. Spend a little more time with her then you did the first time but keep it fairly short, 3 or 4 hours should get the job done. Keep her entertained, don’t tell her your favorite sex jokes, have interesting stories to tell about yourself and what you’ve done in life, like the time you went to Vegas, California, Florida and so on. A prospect of her traveling because she is with you is a fast shortcut to her heart/pants. If she has been to more places then you (which she probably has) then find something else flashy to get the job done, and once again disappear. If you feel that she wants a kiss before you let her go then go for it. Do not think with your dick, look at the situation and how she acts towards you. After the date you can respond to her messages a little faster but give it 10 min since you have other things to do then to stick to your phone.

Stage 4. – Third date

This is where you go to the next level.  Go to a party, bar anywhere where they serve alcohol. Have a few drinks, don’t get drunk and don’t try to get her drunk. Few drink do the job just fine, since for most girls alcohol is a pretty good excuse to why she slept with you. At this point you should be beyond your first kiss, most of the time there is no need for you to try to take her home, you have to be the judge but she is most likely willing to be a little spontaneous and will do perfectly fine in the corner of the parking lot, elevator, psychiatry section in the public library, the park, on the stairs, in the car, I can keep going but I think you got the idea. If you feel like she’s not ready for that then offer to go to your house and watch some movies, she knows what that means so if she agrees you are good to go. If you decide to date her do not do everything she wants, see her on your time, constantly keep her wondering, do not shower her with I love you’s. Because once she will no longer have to work for your love, you will have to work for hers.